I separated from my ex last June, and it was finalized in October. Reading the stories here, it seemed like the divorces were either completely amicable (sunshine and roses) or complete disasters that cost like a house. My story was somewhere in the middle, so I thought it was worth sharing.
I lived with my ex for over ten years, married for over five years. We got together young and had a lot of fun for a long time. There were warning signs and toxic moments in our relationship, but they came up infrequently, and I was happy. After we had a baby, things got worse. Eventually things became too dark and toxic to stay. The day I told him, he was acting very inadequate toward my child and family. It was scary, and the weeks that followed were very difficult.